Do you have any idea how many of life's problems revolve around money?
I've been a broke college student bordering on 2 and a half years now, and a broke regular person for the other 17 years. And it is a matter of shock and awe to realize how many of my problems would be solved if I had some cash. Okay, I'm not saying money solves all problems. Look at all these train wreck celebrities and million dollar murders. But really.
A good friend of mine's boyfriend just offfered to wire her money "for the little things- just in case." He didn't want her to feel like money was a problem, and took it upon himself to show her how much he cared. She accepted, and the money was sent. She saw it as her guy taking care of her and being a respectable man. Though we joke about it, is this okay? Would we want that held over our heads? Is this... whoring? ha-ha
What about that time I went to a sex shop with an ex and didn't have the cash to afford the real champion products? I will admit home-made could probably suffice in this category, but nonetheless, I walked out disappointed. This disappointment usually only came after sex- NOT before, so that was upsetting by itself. And hey, couldn't this be considered a damper on my sex life? Experimentation= bonding with your partner. Better sex life= happier people. Look at that, I just dicked myself over by not being able to afford edible underwear. You are a cruel, cruel world.
And for those of you souls in long distance relationships- money is the constant Catch. You have to worry about paying for flights/other transportation, phone bills, new outfits, activities while your visiting/everything else when you see your long lost lover- and all of that could add up. I feel like a lot of the time long distance relationships don't work, it is because someone decides that the effort is not worth the reward- and the relationship is caput. Maybe it's just a better way of determining whether you are happy in the relationship or not early on, or maybe it kills the relationship before you even had a chance to start.
Throw some back at me. I want this new blog to be more reader focused as well. Tell me your own experiences and how money has played a role in your love lives. Post anonymously for the pansies and prudes out there...
Frankie
xxx
P.S. This blog was only half serious. Don't get too offended.
A side of this that you could have covered would be the "tradition" of guys to pay for girls in relationships. Personally, I hate it, and like to pay my half of bills. Once in awhile it's nice to be treated, but I hate when guys feel obligated to do it. It makes me feel like they think I can't take care of myself. I'm kindof a weirdo though. Haha.
ReplyDeleteinteresting, only because when i think of what I consider to be my problems... motivation, diligence, confidence, relationships etc. i don't think money could be the solution, not that it would hurt, but i just find it neat how every individual views things... not really sure what I'm getting at and its hard to express myself without it sounding snarky which is SO not my intention.
ReplyDeleteI don't see a problem with taking money or paying for the other person in a relationship as long as that road goes both ways. I agree that money can play a very important part during a relationship. Giving gifts has really helped me score some major points (and just score). As we all go out and get jobs I also feel and heard that for a relationship to work both parties should be making around the same pay or it may lead to problems. I've also heard seperate accounts is the only way to go. As for long distance relationships, they suck and cost way too much, and if you both end up actually being together the relationship changes and isn't the same anymore. Trust me I know I've been there for 2 years.
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