10 Signs I Need to Get Laid

A few days ago, I posted a link on my Twitter page to a Cosmo article. Initially when I posted the link I planned on writing in the blog about my changed view of Cosmo. I thought the article was crappy, untrue and a little degrading. My opinions have since changed.

A preview:

10 Signs You Are Way Too Good for Him

Here at Cosmo we kinda hate to see fabulous women dating total d-bags — something we’ve been obsessing about even more since seeing MTV’s hot new show, Is She Really Going Out with Him? So we created this loser cheat sheet: If your “new guy” exhibits any of these not-so-redeeming qualities...well, just don’t say we didn’t warn you.

That's just the headline and catch line. The article goes on to explain how every guy that cries during movies to the guy that has dated your close acquaintances (can we say, player?) should be shot and killed immediately. But it does, in an earnest and sarcastic way, make you go back and think about the people you've dated.

To be honest, I think the most screwed up thing about the article, the thing that really makes me furious, is that I'VE DATED ALL OF THESE GUYS. Okay, maybe not exactly all of them, but the qualities ring true in a good number of my exes. And maybe it is some sort of psychological issue that I seriously need to address in therapy, but I never really saw any of them as "losers".

Something I've realized a lot about myself recently is that I am a person who is constantly looking for the good in others. I absolutely refuse to accept that there are just plain bad people out there. Call me green, color me an idiot, but it is a philosophy that gets me by. The thing is, I do this in relationships too. I could be dating Mr. Douchebag 2009 and I will still appreciate his seldom good deeds.

Is this a flaw? Do I need to take off the rose colored glasses and start looking for people who match none of the qualities on the article's list? Or should I stick to my less than stellar dating history and look for the good guy locked inside the one who is no good for me?

I really don't know. But thanks Cosmo, maybe I need to start thinking about it.